Acceptance is not a bad thing, let’s be clear, without acceptance we would have no job, money, relationships, home ect. But there is a difference between acceptance and just raw attention, more on this subject later. This drive to be accepted can deeply affect your life in ways that can drive your progress or productivity to a dead stop, once stopped it is difficult to get moving again. Ever done anything to please your parents, sure you have, all of us have at some point. Most of us know that person who went to college to be a doctor, lawyer, or even a teacher because that is what mommy or daddy did. They have spent years of their life trying to pour their heart in soul into an education they didn’t truly care about. They may or may not have got the acceptance they wanted, but they have lost a lot of time and now will be stuck in career they don’t care about, and their soul will be dyeing a little each and every day. Not to mention that this is just one example, most people have multiple examples like this working against them every single day.
For some reason we have allowed fear and negativity to become fuel in our lives. Most are not aware of this, it has become the norm, a way of life, a drug. At work we talk to co workers about our personal problems, and home we talk about our work problems. Most media uses this drug to sell to us and get our attention, and we see it every day. The news is full of murders, disasters, political bullying, who did what to who for how much, what celebrity is divorcing or cheating on who, and this bombardment is 24/7. At the time of this writing the BP oil disaster has gripped the news for over a month, good thing for Toyota, now everyone has forgotten about their faulty gas peddles. The small percentage of bad news is where the media will spend 85 to 90 percent of their time, and we will buy it.
`We resent jobs that we think we are stuck in, risks don’t exist, the” comfort” you have created is stressful, we have interests we cannot pursue. This continued growth of expulsion of
self worth has a breaking point, a point a lot of people have hit. When this breaking point hits, people turn to medications, drugs, excessive drinking, and a variety of other addictions, pick your poison. When it comes down to it you are the only one you truly have control over. You must come first in your life. It is time to take control! It is your life, YOUR life!
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Introduction part 1
It’s all about you, Deal with it!
IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU!!! Say it out loud, it is the truth. Not only is it the truth, it is the key to unlocking a more satisfying life, better relationships, more money and overall health and happiness. Now, many of you may have apprehensions about continuing even this first paragraph do to the nature of nothing more than this book’s title. Focusing all your attention on you seems like a bad thing does it not? We have several words for this, take your pick; selfishness, narcissistic, egotistical, self-important, ect. Conditioning from parents, friends, schools, advertising, politics and even our religions, have conditioned us to focus LESS on ourselves and more on others. It is time stop and redirect all that effort that you waste on others back onto yourself, all in order to offer a better life-output.
Now before we go any further let’s take a look at how attention has been pulled away from you and onto others. Here in the U.S.A. we live in a very confusing place sometimes. We are constantly seeking the acceptance of others, such as our parents, employers, co-workers, teachers, our kids, hell even that guy or girl sitting across from us in the coffee shop. More accurately you could say we don’t seek acceptance as much as we just don’t want people to NOT like us. We wake up in the morning, shower so we don’t smell around others. Brush our teeth, fix our hair, shave or do our makeup, so when people look at us they will be pleased with what they are looking at. Get dressed being sure that our clothing will make us more accepted by others we will be surrounded by today. And so on, and so on, and so on. There seems to be this constant cycle of wanting to please or be accepted by others through almost everything we think, say and act.
IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU!!! Say it out loud, it is the truth. Not only is it the truth, it is the key to unlocking a more satisfying life, better relationships, more money and overall health and happiness. Now, many of you may have apprehensions about continuing even this first paragraph do to the nature of nothing more than this book’s title. Focusing all your attention on you seems like a bad thing does it not? We have several words for this, take your pick; selfishness, narcissistic, egotistical, self-important, ect. Conditioning from parents, friends, schools, advertising, politics and even our religions, have conditioned us to focus LESS on ourselves and more on others. It is time stop and redirect all that effort that you waste on others back onto yourself, all in order to offer a better life-output.
Now before we go any further let’s take a look at how attention has been pulled away from you and onto others. Here in the U.S.A. we live in a very confusing place sometimes. We are constantly seeking the acceptance of others, such as our parents, employers, co-workers, teachers, our kids, hell even that guy or girl sitting across from us in the coffee shop. More accurately you could say we don’t seek acceptance as much as we just don’t want people to NOT like us. We wake up in the morning, shower so we don’t smell around others. Brush our teeth, fix our hair, shave or do our makeup, so when people look at us they will be pleased with what they are looking at. Get dressed being sure that our clothing will make us more accepted by others we will be surrounded by today. And so on, and so on, and so on. There seems to be this constant cycle of wanting to please or be accepted by others through almost everything we think, say and act.
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